Some old wise sayings that I have learned from my mother like ‘don’t worry about the money, it will come’ and ‘if you have your health, you have everything’ make sense to me.  However, when I hear the saying ‘forgive and forget’, I pause and shake my head in confusion.

Interestingly enough, I do not get hung up on the word ‘forgive’ but on the word ‘forget.’ So, I decide to check the definition of ‘forget.’   Forget means ‘to lose (facts, knowledge, etc.) from the mind; fail to recall.’

So, for example, if someone stole all my retirement money and I am retired, I need to ‘forget’ and lose this fact from my mind and fail to recall it.  Not possible. My bills need to be paid. I have no job and now I have no money to be retired. Sorry, I can NOT ‘forget’ the bills that keep coming in the mail.

Now, I want to make sure I really understand what the word ‘forgive’ means. I google it.  ‘Forgive’ means ‘stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.’ STOP. I have a memory of Diana Ross singing ‘STOP, in the name of love, before you break my heart’…then Einstein’s quote comes to mind. ‘We have to solve our problems at a level that we did not create them.’  

I think to myself, ‘this is one bad B-movie that I created’ and I need to create something different. I need to see my problem differently. And therefore, start thinking differently.  I get it. I need to ‘forgive’ immediately ‘my situation.’  Whether I want to or not! 

I do not need to ‘forget.’ I need to retrain my thought patterns and come up with a new thought. ♥FORGIVE AND FORGIVE♥…now that thought makes sense to me. ♥